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Unang beses mong makatanggap ng atensyon ay noong bata ka habang ginagawa ang bagay na alinsunod sa mga nakakakita.

This is being expanded from family (your initial tribe) to school (formalized educational system).

Nagiging mas malinaw sa eskwelahan kung anong pwedeng maging ikaw at nao-obserbahan rin kung saan ka magaling.

Catering most of your potential in different fields and activities but not all - especially your peculiarities.

Nagkakaroon ng pagkakataong mapansin ang galing sa ibat-ibang kategorya - Isport, Sining, o Akademiko.

Here, you will start to hear advice about specializing in something, but I stand on the idea of being a Jack of All Trades, Master of Few.

I was invited to be the guest speaker at the Recognition Day of the high school where I graduated.

‘Yan ang inspirasyon ko para dito.

I created something that students can refer to as a guide to improve themselves at school (their primary ground).

Gusto ko na pwedeng magamit rin ito ng mga nagta-trabaho na o tapos na sa pag-aaral (sa eskwelahan).

Perhaps their decision was because of the various achievements I had during my time studying there.

Unang beses ko, kung sakali, na magsalita sa ganoong kadami na tao at pormal pa na okasyon.

I will give you (and the audience there) a predictive framework for forming a life one can be proud of.

Bago ‘yan, kailangan muna natin malaman kung bakit importanteng magkaroon tayo ng sinasabi kong gabay.

Others were able to do just fine without it.

Sa panglabas, ‘yon ang akala mo.

But gaining success in things is not always positive.

Ang madalas na pangyayari dito ay pagkakaroon ng tamang hangarin na may maling rason.

The tendency to do impractical things to have the desired result.

Lumalabo ang linya sa pagitan ng progreso at basta lang magawa ang isang bagay.

This unwanted pressure doesn’t help our personal development.

Madaling rason para d’yan ay pagbabaliwala na lamang na mas mapalupet ang sarili.

“That’s why I am lowkey, I don’t want to give my best.”

Kung hindi naman, pupunta sa nakakapanghinang kaisipan ng pagiging magaling.

“Be thankful as not everyone can have the things you want.”

Nakakaligtaan ang punto ng realidad sa pagbuo ng pangsariling tagumpay.

You become open-minded to what favors your beliefs while being close-minded to such contradictions.

Sasandal sa dahilanang “may ibig sabihin ang lahat ng bagay” resulta ng katamarang intindihin kung ano ang makabuluhang daanang pwedeng lakaran.

If you ever had the chance to belong to people being recognized, you will inevitably encounter a dilemma.

Bakit mo ginagawa ang ginagawa mo?

The initial enjoyment of doing things just because you want to do them becomes calculated to cater to other people’s expectations.

“Kaya mo ‘yan, nagawa mo nga dati.”

The healthy way to navigate through all of these is what my favorite author coined as a Mental Point of Origin.

Ano ang unang pumapasok sa utak mo sa lahat ng ginagawa mo - sarili mo dapat (hindi magulang mo, kaibigan, patakaran, o gusto mong tao).

People are innately selfish and those who say otherwise are just virtue-signaling (trying to look holy to some degree).

Ayos lang maging makasarili, ayos lang bumuo ng sarili mong adhikain.

It’s better to think of yourself first to be capable of helping others later on rather than thinking of others first despite being unable to help yourself first.

Bilang estudyante, ang pinakabayad natin sa hirap ng mga nag-aalaga sa atin ay pagkakaroon ng parangal - medalya man o pagiging mabuting tao.

The achievement you acquire can be a door to better opportunities.

Pagiging magaling na pwedeng magamit sa partikular na larangan at ibang parte ng buhay mo.

Seeing the utilization of things you are being recognized reflects possibilities in the broader picture of life.

Oo sige, may paki lamang ang mga tao sa’yo kung may napanalo ka sa halip na pagdaan mo sa hirap makuha lang ‘yon, pero hindi ibig sabihin na iiwasan mo na ang hirap na pwedeng magpalakas sa’yo.

Through enough understanding (relative to what you can take), you play the game more and become better at it rather than wasting time explaining it.

Hiramin ko lang ang magandang ideyang nakuha ko sa librong The Power Of Now: Focusing and working on things we can control.

Alright! This is it.

Para makakuha ng tagumpay na magtatagal, mayroon tayong gabay na pwedeng sundan.

I call this Retainable Sparks which represents the 5 Cs of Recognition.

Maging magaling ka sa kahit anong bagay.

Have something you do for fun but seems a kind of work for others.

Dito pa lang, malaki na agad ang pwede mong maging agwat sa iba dahil nakapwesto ka na sa pangmatagalan at palobong kabig.

Rather than finding a quick method, accept that it always takes time to be good at something.

Tutal, nandoon rin naman talaga nagugugol ang pagod at oras natin.

99% spent on progress while only 1% on results - learn to enjoy it.

Natural na kasunod ito.

Through your efforts and time spent on competence, you will now have the options to choose from:

Para itong gamot laban sa desperadong kalagayan dahil sa kakulangan ng pagpipilian.

You will observe that if this is not enough, the cause is a lack of competence or not giving your best.

Sa katunayan, pwede ka pa ring magkaproblema dito, pero maganda naman.

It will be from too many options and unable to choose immediately.

Paalala lang na may balanse pa rin tayong ginagawa dito.

Avoid the paradox of choice - there are too many options so you don’t choose.

Ayos pa rin naman kaysa sa wala o isa lang.

This is a booster to how strong the decisions we make in everything.

Kakulangan nito ay nagreresulta sa kahinaan ng isipan.

Being stressed with the chance to be in a state of depression (not the self-diagnosed one).

Dito ‘yong napapansin ng iba kung paano mo dalhin ang sarili, paano ka lumakad, o paraan mong masabi ang gusto mong sabihin.

Confidence is also an enabler in exploring undiscovered things as you know you have competency from the past.

Madalas, tumutulong itong makagawa ng nakakaaliw na buhay galing sa’yo papunta sa nasasakupan mo.

As I mentioned, most of us tend to do things for others.

Pero kung iisipin mo, ang pinakaimportante sa huling hininga mo ay ang mga bagay na nagawa mo.

This can be done by creating something that you can call your own.

Walang masama na maging serbisyo sa iba dahil kritikal ito para sa hanap-buhay mo.

Just also put effort and time into building things under your name.

Nagagawa ng iba ang ganito na kailangan ilagay ang sariling pangalan sa tinatrabaho nila.

It’s the sweet spot in a career to have.

May punto talagang hindi mo alam ang gagawin.

If you ever become confused, do something - much better, create something.

Ito ang asam ng lahat.

After going through the previous Cs (Competence, Choice, Confidence, and Create), you naturally acquire control over your life.

Syempre kapag estudyante ka pa lang, nakadepende ka pa sa mga nag-aalaga sa’yo kaya ‘yong sakop ng kontrol mo ay limitado.

As time passes, you finish the levels of education and earn money on your own, the domain of influence you can have widens.

Para hindi makaligtaan ang kagubatan dahil sa pagkatutok sa mga puno, bukod sa “magparami”, ang hangad natin ay mapunta sa estado na hindi lang may makain sa araw-araw.

That’s why people are studying and working.

‘Yan ang pinagbasihan ng sistema.

To simplify, just be mindful of the trifecta of life: Health, Wealth, and Socialization. These are the supreme rulers that give us control in life.

Kahit estudyante ka pa, ginagawa mo na ito:

Later on, we utilize or amplify it in our work.

Hindi sa gusto nating maging adik sa pagkakaroon ng kontrol, gusto lang natin magkaroon ng sapat na kakayahan para madiktahan ang direksyon ng buhay natin.

From limited to abundant, this can be done

Dahil napakadalas nito, may tawag na dito.

There is a term called Whataboutism.

Oo, may ganitong salita.

This is a technique to accuse a claim of someone by statements like “What about this”, “What about that”, or “What about them”.

Hindi makakalusot ang binigay ko panigurado.

Retainable Sparks is a predictive framework derived from observations and data I encountered.

Pwede mo itong gamiting panimula.

As you experience life yourself more and are exposed to different ideas, you can create your own.

Pansamantala, ito muna ang gawin mo.

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Makalimot ka na, ‘wag lang ang paalala ko.

Numbers are not the paint of your life.

Pwedeng makatulong ‘yan.

I can give you the paintbrush, canvas, and paint. But still, you are the artist who creates the piece of work.

Sagarin na natin.

“You’re the artist of your own life” - based on a popular slogan.

Hindi ko ‘yan kukunin sa’yo, at h’wag mong hayaan manakaw ‘yan sa’yo ng iba.

Nonetheless, you’re not exempted from the consequences of your actions.

Makikita na lang natin kalaunan ang litratong mabubuo ng gawa mo.

For now, that may be your latest accomplishments in different categories symbolized by awards or recognition.

Importante sa lahat, ayos lang kung hindi laging sumasang-ayon sa plano mo ang mga bagay.

Considering that it is not a life-altering decision like the birth of your child or near-death situations, you just created new data to refer to in improving yourself.